The death of a loved one is among the most stressful events a person can experience, according to the Holmes-Rahe Life Stress Inventory. When you’re dealing with the physical and emotional toll of a death, it can be difficult to deal with all of the new practical life problems you’re facing. Here are 3 things to keep in mind during this difficult time.
Put Yourself First
Grieving and assimilating the loss of a loved one is hard, and it takes an emotional and physical toll. You may find yourself dealing with fatigue, sleep or appetite changes, mood fluctuations, forgetfulness, loss of concentration and even despair.
It’s important to recognize what you’re going through, and place physical, emotional and spiritual self-care at the top of any list. You can find more advice on self care here.
Give Yourself Time
Try to find ways to delay making long-lasting decisions about things like finances or changing jobs until you’ve had a chance to adjust a bit to your new reality. Try to find temporary solutions that will give you the time and space to make more sound decisions. Practical help with finances for widows.
Mementos and Reminders
If you’re able to store personal items and keepsakes, rather than dispose of them immediately, you may avoid hasty decisions that you might regret. Even a few weeks may help you feel better able to decide what you truly want to keep or toss. Story of the importance of personal items in healing. And some practical ideas for disposing of personal effects.
And if you or a loved one are struggling with grief, the SAMHSA National Helpline at 1-800-662-4357 can provide information on support and treatment in your area.
